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If you have already found a match, an independent adoption (also known as a direct or private adoption) may be a good choice.

An independent adoption, a prospective adoptive parent identifies an adoption opportunity by direct outreach, advertising, or through a facilitator.

It is called an independent adoption because the birth parent places the child directly with the prospective adoptive parent and there is no agency acting as an intermediary.

What Is Private Adoption?

In a private or independent adoption in North Carolina, prospective adoptive parents are advised by an adoption attorney, instead of working through an agency.

In most independent adoptions, the adoptive parents take an active role in identifying the birth mother. There are many different methods, which may include networking with their group of friends or peers, advertising, facilitators, and more. Once the birth parents are identified, they give consent directly to the adoptive parents instead of to an agency.

North Carolina law allows birth fathers to give consent for adoption prior to the child being born, but birth mothers must wait until after the child is born to provide their consent.

Things To Keep In Mind

For many parents, the ability to have more control over the process and playing a direct role in locating their future child is empowering. However, there are a few things to keep in mind.

Costs can also vary widely, and you can’t control all the variables. Your costs will generally include the following:

  • Home study or pre-placement assessment
  • Post-placement assessment
  • Medical and social histories
  • Attorneys’ fees
  • Private investigator fees (if required)
  • Travel expenses
  • Advertising fees
  • Any medical fees or complications for the birth mother
  • Any other expenses agreed on for the birth mother
  • Hiring an adoption attorney

Because of the laws governing the process and the complexity of adoptions without an adoption agency, working with an experienced partner in independent and private adoptions is key.

An adoption attorney will help you with a private adoption in North Carolina by:

  • Providing an unbiased explanation of risks an options
  • Explain your rights and the adoption laws in North Carolina, and refer you to other helpful resources that can make the process go smoothly
  • Assess the risks and costs involved to ensure you are fully informed
  • Review and negotiate adoption agreements to ensure your interests are protected
  • Clarify options for post-placement arrangements with the birth parents to make sure your best interests and the best interests of the child are served

Experience On Your Side

Independent adoptions in North Carolina require an experienced partner at your side. Bobby Mills has practiced adoption law in North Carolina for over 30 years. Call us today at 919-533-4025 to schedule a consultation.

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Why Choose Mills Adoption Law?

  • Experience–Attorney Bobby Mills has over 35 years of experience representing birth parents, adoptive parents, and foster parents through all aspects of adoption and parental rights.
  • Adoption Specialist–Other firms include adoption and parental rights as part of their larger family law practice areas. At Mills Adoption Law, we focus exclusively on adoption, parental rights, and foster parent rights.
  • Board-Certified–Attorney Bobby Mills is a Fellow of the American Academy of Adoption & Assisted Reproductive Attorneys, certified by the board as a specialist in family law, and the former director of a child placement agency.
  • Agency Attorney–At Mills Adoption Law, we also represent child placement agencies and their clients.

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Why Should You Choose An Adoption Attorney?

Adoption is a wonderful option for expanding your family, but the laws governing the process are quite complex. Working with an attorney with significant experience in adoption law will help ensure that the adoption process goes smoothly.

An adoption attorney will:


We will provide an unbiased explanation of adoption procedures and develop a legally secure plan tailored to your needs.


We will assess the risks involved, including determining what payments are permissible and ensuring that birth parents are treated fairly and their rights are legally terminated before placement is finalized.


We will clarify your options, if any, for post-placement arrangements with birth parents, making sure your interests and those of the child are served.

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We will explain your rights and adoption laws in your state or refer you to attorneys who practice in other states or internationally.


We will review and negotiate the adoption agency contract to protect your interests.

You Should...


You should contact an attorney as early as possible in the decision-making process.


Learn about the specific types of adoption services the attorney provides. Ask what percentage of the practice is dedicated to adoption and how many adoption proceedings the attorney has handled.


Choose an attorney who is experienced in the type of adoption you are considering.

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Know what the attorney charges, how fees are structured and that you can afford the services.


Ask questions, request references, share your concerns and provide the attorney with all relevant documents. Ask for a written retainer agreement that outlines what the attorney charges, how fees are structured and other details regarding fees and fee payment.

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